Friends! I have a treat for you! I recently asked my friend Adwait if he would be willing to write a guest post for my blog and he managed to give me something awesome. I’m really excited to share it with you! He doesn’t have a website, but maybe after this, he’ll think about it. It’s also the first guest post on this blog. If you would like to write something here, don’t hesitate to get in touch with me – Lowaww [at] gmail [dot] com.
About the Author
Buongiorno, I’m Adwait. Most people say add-weight. That’s not totally wrong, but that’s not correct either. Phonetically, its ədvəit. Otherwise əd-wait is cool. Not a big deal. It’s a hard name. Europeans and Asians say it right though. Probably because their languages are phonetically a lot more thorough. Call me Andy otherwise. It’s cool. For more information go here.
We all go through trying times in our lives – times that really test our mettle, our resolve to see things through till the very end. Essentially, that’s what life is all about. Isn’t life about appreciating the good moments, overcoming the bad ones and thus becoming more resilient? Who among us can say that their life is just so perfect that they do not have a concern or a single care or are not worried or anxious about anything? We always seem to spend hours thinking and worrying about our problems. But what if we try to understand how, where and why these ‘problems’ originate?
When we look deep within ourselves we might realize that most of our so-called problems originate in our own minds. Our minds are like highly flammable morsels of kerosene-soaked tinder just waiting to burst into flames of negative thought at the slightest provocation. Our thoughts and feelings are constantly being fueled by deadly poisons – pride, anger, jealousy, greed, lust, ignorance, enmity, hatred, fear, desire and most importantly, in my opinion, attachment. Attachment is when we obsess and intensely fixate on something and convince ourselves that we can’t survive without it. Attachment to objects, moments, a status, tastes, smells, sights, attitudes, behaviors, opinions, ideas, places, people, etc. These attachments tend to take over our lives and we lose sight of who we really are. Attachments put us in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction and we constantly want more, more, and more. We become junkies and strive to get our ‘fix’ one way or another. This incessant craving for gratification through external means causes undue stress, makes us worry and leads to suffering.
Next time I find myself worrying about or ‘attaching’ to something I’ll try to discover the true nature of my emotions. I’ll try to look deep within. I’ll try to look at my emotions objectively and without prejudice. What am I being motivated by? Is it due to raw desire, misplaced pride, lust, greed or jealousy? Is it because I think I deserve something (time to get off my high horse)? Am I anxious because I feel that after attaining this object I will be free from my misery? Moreover, if I do attain this object is there a guarantee that my life will remain worry-free thereafter? What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t get it? Does my troubled state of mind truly reflect reality or is this a distorted image that my mind has conjured up?
Tilopa, a tenth-century Indian yogi once said, “It is not the outer objects that entangle us. It is the inner clinging that entangles us.” In other words, the problem and the solution both lie within.